The Story of a Finnish Mother

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People with ME/CFS in Finland need your help.
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Editor’s note:  Click here to read the Finnish translation of this article.
Twelve years ago a boy was born, my youngest. A happy, delightful child, always making others laugh and enthusiastically participating in everything. He liked the school as well as sports and playing with friends. Life was such a fun adventure.
All that changed suddenly. He did not recover from a flu back to normal. Pain came in and remained. The pain, so severe that he loses consciousness several times during a day. Constant nausea makes it hard for him to eat. Sports is now but a memory: even walking gets impossible when his legs lose all their strength and his vision becomes blurred the same time. He can’t read or write any more. Sounds appear intense, even unbearable. Watching TV and sometimes even a conversation is just too much for him.
[pullquote align=”full” cite=”” link=”” color=”” class=”” size=””]“The pain won’t go away even when you think you can’t take it anymore.”[/pullquote] The boy longed to be at school, and so he was taken there to lie on the classroom couch for a short while at a time. The cost of that was lacking energy and having even more pain for several days. It felt unreasonable. It was easier to regulate exertion at home. Besides, no child wants to cry in front of mates. The teacher makes now brief visits at home every now and then.
His life has narrowed down to our living room couch for years now. He can’t do things that he used to love any more. The days are long and the doings are brief. The pain won’t go away even when you think you can’t take it anymore. Nausea and pain wake him up at nights.
[pullquote align=”full” cite=”” link=”” color=”” class=”” size=””]“I had to leave my job to become a caregiver for my little boy. How come it was my child that got an illness, which nobody seemed to know anything about?”[/pullquote] For the first couple of years he had faith and hope. Mom and dad would know what to do, and the doctors would know how to help. Now the hope is almost gone. Doctors can’t help after all. Only few of them have said anything positive to grab on to.
I had to leave my job to become a caregiver for my little boy. I never thought I’d live to see that. How come it was my child that got an illness, which nobody seemed to know anything about? How come there wasn’t even a way to treat his pain away?
[pullquote align=”full” cite=”” link=”” color=”” class=”” size=””]“It was not enough, that they shifted the whole responsibility of caring to the parents, they even implied at first, that our child’s illness was our fault.”[/pullquote] What has shocked me the most, is the way university hospitals have treated my son and his fellow-sufferers. Nobody seems to be interested, even though my son is practically bedbound. Not one doctor has made my son better. Every time we payed a visit to the hospital, they apparently wanted to get rid of us as quickly as possible. It was not enough, that they shifted the whole responsibility of caring to the parents, they even implied at first, that our child’s illness was our fault. All this was hard to believe. We love our child above all else and we’d do anything to make him better. As we were utterly exhausted and our hearts were breaking for the child’s endless suffering, they decided to make our burden even bigger. We had to explain this absurd true story to child protection workers. The feeling of humiliation was almost unbearable.
[pullquote align=”full” cite=”” link=”” color=”” class=”” size=””]“There are unwritten rules, which make it impossible for doctors to help and which apparently legitimize acting against the rights of a patient, the rights of a child and human rights.”[/pullquote] I always thought, that I was living in a world ruled by the principles of justice and children’s best interest. Now that my eyes have been opened, I find myself in a different world, where the conflicts of medical authority are more important than any suffering child. I can’t get help for my child neither by patiently negotiating nor by crying or shouting. There are unwritten rules, which make it impossible for doctors to help and which apparently legitimize acting against the rights of a patient, the rights of a child and human rights.
We are running out of time. If we can’t get help in Finland, we are forced to leave for another country. We can’t go on like this.

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Patients with ME/CFS have to fight in Finland to get appropriate treatment and support like in so many other countries. The model copied from Denmark is about to become the official guidance of the country.
Although the duties of university hospitals include medical research and development of treatments, as far as ME/CFS is concerned, this does not happen. According to the official position of Finland, the illness is a ‘functional disorder’, and treating it physically can exacerbate the symptoms by reinforcing the patient’s conception of the physical nature of the illness. In fact ME/CFS is, indeed, a physical illness, which should be studied and treated accordingly.
By signing this petition you help Finnish patients with ME/CFS and their families to get the help they so desperately need.

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4 thoughts on “The Story of a Finnish Mother”

  1. Its is very sad to hear about a child that does not recover properly after illness and the medical fraternity blame mental illness for its residual somatising affects. It is profoundly wrong they can get away with this attitude when they know exactly what is the cause of it. they have known for over 40 years. They simply choose not to tell the public to protect their own financial interests. As a long term I found the best thing I could do was stay away from the medical profession all together: it will be ensure your sons survival. Much of his symptomology results from impaired Glia cell function which is not metabolising circulating L-glutamate levels properly. L-glutamate is a chemical the body converts to L’glutamine which is neurotransmitter that is used by the central nervous system The best support for a compromised brain/nervous systems is to reduce ones intake of L-glutamate rich foods to reduce the body burden. This includes all artificial and natural sources and sources from pesticides and medications. This dietary manipulation is used to treat epilepsy and is very effective. Another great cheap and easy method is going on a Ketogenic diet. That method is also used to treat medication resistant epilepsy in children. I have found both method to be a life saving , cheap and easy solution to a complex illness . It most certainly is a much safer and more effective option than taking the anti-convulsive medications CFS/ME sufferers are normally prescribed. This is because medications contain L-glutamate in their ingredients . That is why most sufferer donot find any benefit from their medications. That’s because it aggravates the nervous system and contributes to the illness: not ameliorate it. This is why the medical fraternity are tight lipped on what causes the illness.. They aint going to self incriminate.

  2. PLEASE COME TO CANADA !!!! You and your child will face similar issues within the medical system here…but our system is quickly changing, and your child will have access to home schooling as able, and will within their life time perhaps have a higher quality of life. Your human rights and your son’s human rights will be protected here…by law…and accountably…you could seek shelter here. Come to Vancouver BC Canada, and I will connect you with as many resources as possible. Our community of individuals with Myalgic Encephalomyelitis is a very proactive community here, your voice and needs will be heard !!! good luck to you , many people are rooting for you and your son !!!

  3. This story too familiar. Parents and grandparents with children and grandchildren totally bearing all burdens frantically looking for ways to stay afloat, cope, and reverse the horrors. Please read Dr Norman Doidge’s 2 books : The Brain That Changes Itself and The Brain’s Way of Healing. Canada may indeed be the place where the unbelievably effective treatments he mentions are in practice available to the public. I recently noted that the Canadian government just recently approved the clinical use (with a waiting list already of 2500) of the device both books mentioned in detail (PoNS) and is already home to most of the therapies cited.

  4. Bruyninckx Anja (Belgium)

    6 years ago, I had to quit teaching.
    I got diagnosed with FM and CFS/ME.
    I already found that hard to accept.
    But last year my son, 12, got the diagnose CFS/ME aswell.
    It breaks my heart knowing I can’t fight this battle for him an knowing I can’t give him what he needs. (No cure, no understanding, no support..)
    He is supposed to be in school, having fun, with the world at his feet..
    My heart goes out to all the children with ME/CFS,..
    Lots of courage! X

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